Why do you think wrong thoughts, or as I say “Stinking Thinking”. Ever noticed that you feel negative alot? Or do you find it hard to focus your mind on a task without being distracted? Have you even frightened yourself by an evil or intrusive thought, and wondered how did I think that and why can’t I stop thinking it? How do you stop these wrong thoughts? Keep reading, and I may be able to help shed light on this situation.
Well first of all let me say this. All of us have had thoughts pop into our heads for no reason. Thoughts that defied our moral code of living, thoughts that didn’t agree with your heart. Most of us will not even engage the thought or think twice about it, and hence, the thought is gone in seconds. However, sometimes we stop and engage the thought, and then we are shocked to how we were able to conceive such a thought. Does this mean that deep down you are an evil person or may be possessed by something? Don’t worry, its all fixable so keep reading.
I had a conversation with a friend of mine, and they opened up about a wrong thought they’d had. This thought came from nowhere and before they new it they were getting worked up and anxious about why, and how did this thought even happen. It went against everything they believed spiritually and morally. I was able to chat with them and they got it sorted. Then awhile later another person, then another, and then another, telling me how they had thoughts that frightened them or made them feel terrible. I did this topic on my radio talk show and the feedback was huge. It was then I knew I needed to write this blog. So here is some knowledge to understand Stinking Thinking, and then we’ll go through the help-list, but its good to understand a little about it before we go anywhere.
Things to know about thinking:
1: It happens everybody
I can even find it in the Bible how great Holy men would think the wrong stuff and even worry why.
For example Paul wrote Romans (MSG) 7:21 It happens so regularly that it’s predictable. The moment I decide to do good, sin is there to trip me up. 22 I truly delight in God’s commands, 23 but it’s pretty obvious that not all of me joins in that delight. Parts of me covertly rebel, and just when I least expect it, they take charge. 24 I’ve tried everything and nothing helps. I’m at the end of my rope. Is there no one who can do anything for me? Isn’t that the real question? 25 The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different.
Here is Paul, a praying man, a public speaker, a Holy man. Yet he is writing about how he thought and did what he knew to be wrong. How he struggled with sinful thoughts regularly. He then goes on to answer the first step in dealing with stinking thinking.
2: Get the foundation right
A house is only as strong as its foundation. The first step that MUST be taken in fixing this stinking thinking is to believe in God. The reasons are many, but a big reason is the fact that without God and His guidance, who is to say what is right and wrong? How can we be lead to what is that good and right lifestyle with the thinking to match? Some might say well my parents trained me. Have you ever seen your parents make a mistake? Of course you have, and who is to say they have all the answers? Exactly, they don’t have all the answers, and they would tell you that. But as creations of God the best place to get advice is the creator. Believing in God and getting the Bible is a must.
3: Imagination…we all got one
Everybody has a thing called an imagination. This is a great gift and can be used for creating amazing pieces of art, great movies, song beats, and a million other things. However, sometimes it can throw a thought up on our radar that is uninvited. Even as a Christian church-going choir member, this may still happen at times. To this day we still don’t know why this happens, but simply put, if your mind is not focused or under duress, the imagination can play tricks on you.
For example its like when you are at home on your own and you hear a noise. All of a sudden you are picturing somebody in your hallway with a knife and a psycho look in his eye. However it may have been a cat, or the heating creaking. This analogy is a simple way to see how we can imagine ourselves into a state of fear thanks to our imagination. Our imagination will actually conjure up a whole storyline and images to suit of something we really fear and don’t want to happen. “Your imagination is playing tricks on you” is the saying. Or maybe you are in a meeting and you get the thought of, “What if I fainted in this meeting”,etc. You don’t want to faint, but now with the thought of fainting you suddenly put on your doctors cap and start over analyzing your vital signs, and due to this you even start to feel faint. All because of the thoughts and inner dialogue you are having. I heard of people imagining hitting somebody they love, or even jumping out a window, and they are so overcome by this that they feel they are going insane or losing their mind. They think and think and then thrust themselves into a state of utter anxiety. So we are agreed, our imagination can throw some thoughts up without warning or justification. I’m not a psychologist, and I don’t think you need to be to agree on this. It just happens. I’ll go into this more in part 2 of this blog.
If we find ourselves in a state of stress frequently, our thoughts can be effected. Irritations, work, and those things that may keep you awake at night, they all raise our stress levels. This in turn realizes hormones and chemicals that effect our mood and our physiology. This will then effect our thoughts and make us a little on edge. Its harder to laugh when stressed as I’m sure you’ll agree. Stress can and does effect our thoughts in a negative way if left for prolonged periods.
5: What do you feed your brain with?
Ever go to an action movie and that night you dreamt about it. Then a couple of days later there you are in a shop and this violent thought pops out of nowhere. My point is simple, what you feed your mind with is what it may think on, and store as a memory. If something triggers a memory, your mind may pull up a thought or create a similar scene to the movie that you saw. What you put in, increases the likelihood of what you get out of your thoughts. This is true for books, songs, radio shows, and most media platforms of communications. What you put in will be processed, and maybe even stored.
6: Am I going insane?
One big factor to remember, is this. People who lose their minds don’t know it when it happens. They don’t wake up one day and say “am I losing my mind?”. So if you ever thought this way ,its a sign you are ok.
7: Am I Possessed?
I’ve met alot of Christians in particular who condemn themselves because of the thoughts they are having. They sometimes come to the conclusion that there is something sinister at work. People will sometimes use this as the reason they are the way they are, when in retrospect of the situation they are just in very bad thinking habits. They say it is this spirit or that, when really they don’t read their Bible, they barely attend church, and they have a wrong thinking habit that has been there a long time. Put it like this, if you can identify any wrong thinking habits, deal with them and get advice what to do. Then if you feel there is something spiritual at play in your life, go and get prayer from mature Christian leader that understands the power of the name of Jesus. Get the prayer, receive it, and that settles it. The point is be honest with yourself, take action, and don’t worry about it. People will sometimes say they are possessed when its not the case, but instead they just need to renew their mind.
8: Fear & Worry
When we are fearful or in an anxious state over worry, our thinking can be a little dramatic. Something that is only a mole hill becomes a mountain due to worry and fear. It can cause us to think a little silly. There will be occasions that will bring worry or fear, and its at these times you don’t want to start analyzing your thoughts, for you are not in the right state of mind to do so. As I always say, why worry ,cause worry don’t work.
This is just so you understand a little more about wrong thoughts and even thoughts in general. Just cause you thought it, doesn’t mean you have to do anything with it.
You cant stop a bird landing on your head, but you can stop it making a nest…just like thoughts.
Part two of Stinking Thinking will give you the help list on how to deal with wrong thoughts.